Why the Name: Date Like a Dude

Date like a dude means to date solely for the enjoyment of getting to know someone without an underlying need (or attachment) to an outcome like ‘settling down.’

Men have this down cold. Most date to enjoy the adventure. They love the thrill of where the next moment will go without being attached to settling down. Why? Without trying, they will finally meet the one girl that will cause them to change their ways and eventually wed. 

If you’ve studied spirituality at all, you’ll know all we have is this present moment. If we live there, worries and attachment does not exist. The moment we chose to look to the past or toward the future, our aliveness disappears. We are desperate for an outcome to occur. 

We’re constantly wondering if that new guy on bumble will text back for a second date because he really could fit into your life and if he fits in well with you then he’d surely be the one you’d like to marry….ASAP. 

See, what’s happening here is you’ve given up your magnetism and replaced it with attaching your happiness to an outcome. The effervescent qualities of your personality diminish as your nervous laughter kicks in. Your mind stops feeling free to be YOU and becomes singly-focused on him. Worrisome thoughts shoot through your internal ethers,” Will he text me back? Does he like me in the same way? Can he see a future with me?” 

Men sense these vibes and are hindered from experiencing your essence. Energy we think we can hide from them has a way of showing up on their radar and making it difficult to truly connect. 

What most people don’t understand about this concept is that it isn’t about gender. It’s about who can remain open to experiencing the moment and making a true connection.

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